For better or for worse, that’s entirely up to the type of person you are dealing with. And for me, I’m grateful that it was for the better.
I’ll admit it now that I have a tendency to make assumptions about others too quickly. It’s bad, I know that. And if a recent event has taught me anything is that I need to change this habit of mine.
You see, I had a mini reunion with two people from high school yesterday. And the thing about it was that, ever since I got the invitation for the reunion, to say that I was scared as hell was an understatement.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that these two aren’t friends of mine. We were friends during high school. However, it was because we haven’t seen each other in years, I’m scared of risking the self-esteem that I’ve worked hard to build over the years, crumbled at the reunion.
Truth be told, I felt inferior to them back in high school. These are smart and intelligent women whom I’m friends with, and I felt like a wallpaper existing in the background of this friendship. And because of this, I’m scared of feeling inferior to them again at the reunion.
But you know what? All of those baseless assumptions quickly flew out of the window when I realized that halfway through the reunion that I was actually having fun!
The whole time it felt like we were school girls again, gossiping about all the latest and hottest scoop of the people in our lives, while we carefully ate the Durian Cheese Pizza at Pizza Hut. It felt careless, spontaneous, and we were laughing on cloud nine.
And the best part of it all, I didn’t feel inferior to them, at all!
I don’t know if it’s just me, but there was a moment where I felt there was a silent understanding between the three of us during the reunion, an understanding that we have grown. We are adults now. There was an air of maturity that was felt, inhaled, and exhaled of any preconceived notions that we might have of each other before.
So yes, people change. Sometimes for better, and other times, for worse. However, what you need to realize is that sometimes, you will think that some people need to change in order to fit into your narrative when the truth is, you are the one that needs to change. And I’m grateful that it was me who changed for the better.
-3rd Sept 2019-